Feeling like you’re never doing enough—for your community, your cause, or even your to-do list? You’re not the only one. This post unpacks how perfectionism, political urgency, and internalized moral pressure can quietly hijack your sense of worth—and how to begin measuring your impact in more grounded, human ways. Especially if you’re neurodivergent, recovering from religious trauma, or just exhausted by it all… this one’s for you.

From “Righteous Obedience” to Moral Perfectionism

If you were raised evangelical, you probably got the message that your worth was measured by how much you sacrificed, how pure your intentions were, and how committed you were to “saving” others. You didn’t just believe the message—you were supposed to embody it. Constantly. Tirelessly.

I know for me, as a deconstructing teenager, it was easy to swap my church family for my feminist and activist family (which, of course, was better in a million ways). And honestly? I was good at being an activist.